There is also a difference between " I believe you made a bad decision " and " I believe you are a bad decision - maker ," which can be ascertained only by seeing the pattern . Any one event has many different possible explanations , whereas a pattern of behavior can tell you a lot about root causes . There are many qualities that make up a person . To understand each requires 1) a reliable sample size and 2) getting in synch ( i . e ., asking the person why and giving feedback ). Some qualities don ' t require a large sample size - e . g ., it takes only one data point to know if a person can sing -and others take multiple observations

( five to 10). The number of observations needed to detect a pattern largely depends on how well you get in synch after each observation . A quality discussion of how and why a person behaved a certain way should help you quickly understand the larger picture .

在“我相信你做了个糟糕的决策”和“我相信你是个糟糕的决策者”之间是有区别的。这只能通过观察模式来确定。任何一个事件都有许多不同的解读，尽管行为模式会说明许多问题的根源。一个人有许多的品质。要了解每一项品质需要1）可靠的样本数量，2）达成一致（即，询问这个人原因，并给出反馈）。一些品质不需要大的样本量--即，只需要一个数据点就可以知道一个人是否会唱歌--另外的品质就需要进行多次观察（5～10次）。检测模式所需要观察的样本量极大地依赖于每一次观察后你们如何达成一致。如果能有效的讨论一个人行为的方式和原因，应该会有助于你快速地理解更宏大的场景。